For approximately one million years, I have talked about writing a book. I've said this for so long that I bored my college friends with it, and I graduated 32 years ago. In the 90's.
I know.
But I'm doing it now. At present, I'm editing chapter 11 of Death to Sparkleprincess: A Beginners Guide t...
What is, is the great teacher. — Father Richard Rohr
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Yesterday, I picked up a hitchhiker. She was probably 80 years-old, standing at the main intersection in Taos, New Mexico. She said something to the driver in front of me, but he rolled on. I wasn't sure what she wanted so I rolled my windo...
One of my absolute favorite hobbies is waking up before dawn, in a foreign city, with nothing to do all day but eat and explore.
A tiny espresso in an outdoor cafe. A man in a black hat playing violin to the pigeons. Cobblestones under my feet. Cathedrals where people crawl on their knees to the ...
I have a client in the Twin Cities - a mother of two little brown boys. She put copies of their passports in their backpacks, and goes to meetings at their school to hear the plan should heavily-armed, masked men enter.Â
Ahh, the things we get to plan for. In America. In 2026.Â
My client draws fr...
Tell me if this feels familiar.
The group text bings and someone suggests lunch. One person hearts the message. Two say “Yaaaaaassss! Soon.” One says “this week is wild, next week maybe?”
Then nothing happens.
A few days later someone sends a meme. Then a birthday gif. Then a “thinking of you ❤️....
I was feeling pretty cranky on Friday, and I mentioned it to a friend who is a therapist and a fellow IFS practioner.Â
In Internal Family Systems we talk a lot about "Self Energy" which is the belief that all humans are imbued with a calm, clear, compassionate center — a wise knowing that, like t...
"Do not speak until love is the motive." -Unknown
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When I first started coaching, I knew I would encounter people of different cultures and faiths. I love that, and consider it a privilege. But I talk about Jesus a lot and I wanted to be sure everyone knew they didn't have to think like me to ...
If you've been following along here, you know we're making some moves. Yesterday, I placed deposits on VRBO houses - one in New Mexico and one in the French Alps.Â
Am I crazy, with this much chaos in the US and globally?Â
Maybe.
But I spent 2025 waiting to see what would happen, so I could react ...
I haven't always been a good friend. Over the past several months, evidence for that claim has bubbled up and flashed before me like a haunt from the ghost of friendship past.Â
Fifth grade, in particular, stands out as the time when friendship became an exercise in kill or be killed. The boys got...
Living in Santa Cruz, California in my mid-20s, my friend Jean and I would often zip up to Lake Tahoe to go snowboarding at Kirkwood Resort.Â
On one of those trips, the powder was waist-deep and spectacular, and we were riding through the trees. Both of us were smart enough to stay away from the ...
Years ago at a conference in LA, a coach, to whom I was paying a ton of money, asked in the very first session, how many of us had a regular gratitude practice.Â
The room was full of coaches and consultants so, of course, nearly every hand went up. Then he said, "how many of you did it this morni...
Yesterday, Sam and I went to Albuquerque with a long list, which is only remarkable in context: We moved to a cattle ranch in the center of New Mexico eleven days ago, and the ranch is so big we measure it in miles - 14 by 10ish.
The quiet is so absolute here, you only really get it by standing u...
