Sam and I are on the road again, this time with a camper, truck and trailer, three horses, two dogs, four saddles and the rest of our stuff. We're leaving Wyoming and roaming the West like we do.
It sounds romantic, and it is. Waking up to the sunrise in Wheatland, Wyoming and Trinidad Colorado,...
Midlife has been hands-down the hardest time in my life. Nobody told me it would be this hard either, so I didn't expect it. Now that I'm getting to the other side, here are ten things I wish I'd known before my 45th birthday.
You're probably already in perimenopause - which can begin ten year...
It's been a violent week in America and across the world. It's sometimes hard to know how to lead your life, your family, your career through wild uncertainties like these - especially if you're deconstructing your faith, your political sensibilities and other structures from your life's first ha...
I'm going to Chicago next week for a conference. I'm flying there, seeing friends, taking Ubers to the best Cannoli and Italian food, shopping downtown and probably drinking a little too much.
And that's funny because this morning on a Zoom call, a giant bull moose grazed in the willows behind m...
I was at a party over the weekend, talking with a young man who is maybe 24. He's been working a job in sales and is good at it, but it holds no meaning for him and he's antsy about it.
It made me think of a recent Pew study that found 95 percent of teens said “having a job or career they enjoy” ...
At the beinning of my midlife deconstruction, I began reading Matthew Kelly, specifically his book The Rhythm of Life. I didn't even know what a midlife deconstruction was then, I was just trying to answer the question: WTF has gone wrong with me?
Sure, Sam and I made some huge moves in 2018, li...
We love ourselves when we breathe through the fire of pain, and refuse to let it harden into hate.
-Valerie Kaur
A few weeks ago, Sam took a broken chainsaw to a local repair shop.
Through an unfortunate paperwork snafu, Sam believed the work on the chainsaw had been paid for, mainly becaus...
I've watched the 1989 film Steel Magnolias at least a hundred times. Every time they're standing at Shelby's grave and Sally Field gives that Oscar-winning speech while her friends stand quietly by, I cry.
It feels so beautiful, so true. It's something I long for.
It's why we do women's retreat...
You already know, morning and evening routines help manage anxiety and stress by building margin in your days and minimizing the need for constant decision-making.
You probably have some already - Do they include looking at your phone?
Do you really want to read the news first thing or last thin...
I know without a doubt the best thing I can do for my mental and emotional health is to be still - either in prayer or meditation.
But like most people, I avoid it, preferring to get on with my to-do list or Substack or Instagram or coffee, whatever. Off to the races all the time.
But as I've s...
I am a practitioner of a psycho-therapeutic modality called Internal Family Systems.
It's a fancy way of saying, we're all made up of a bunch of parts. Think of a junior high school band learning to play. You are the conductor at the front of the room, with all your clarity, calm and compassion...
Back in the day, when I worked for Mercy Ships - a non-profit which runs the largest civilian hospital ships in the world - people would sign up in advance to talk to me, during my short visits to the ship.
I was always surprised by that.
I'd arrive to the ship after a million hours in the air ...
