I have a client in the Twin Cities - a mother of two little brown boys. She put copies of their passports in their backpacks, and goes to meetings at their school to hear the plan should heavily-armed, masked men enter.
Ahh, the things we get to plan for. In America. In 2026.
My client draws fr...
Tell me if this feels familiar.
The group text bings and someone suggests lunch. One person hearts the message. Two say “Yaaaaaassss! Soon.” One says “this week is wild, next week maybe?”
Then nothing happens.
A few days later someone sends a meme. Then a birthday gif. Then a “thinking of you ❤️....
I was feeling pretty cranky on Friday, and I mentioned it to a friend who is a therapist and a fellow IFS practioner.
In Internal Family Systems we talk a lot about "Self Energy" which is the belief that all humans are imbued with a calm, clear, compassionate center — a wise knowing that, like t...
"Do not speak until love is the motive." -Unknown
When I first started coaching, I knew I would encounter people of different cultures and faiths. I love that, and consider it a privilege. But I talk about Jesus a lot and I wanted to be sure everyone knew they didn't have to think like me to ...
If you've been following along here, you know we're making some moves. Yesterday, I placed deposits on VRBO houses - one in New Mexico and one in the French Alps.
Am I crazy, with this much chaos in the US and globally?
Maybe.
But I spent 2025 waiting to see what would happen, so I could react ...
I haven't always been a good friend. Over the past several months, evidence for that claim has bubbled up and flashed before me like a haunt from the ghost of friendship past.
Fifth grade, in particular, stands out as the time when friendship became an exercise in kill or be killed. The boys got...
Living in Santa Cruz, California in my mid-20s, my friend Jean and I would often zip up to Lake Tahoe to go snowboarding at Kirkwood Resort.
On one of those trips, the powder was waist-deep and spectacular, and we were riding through the trees. Both of us were smart enough to stay away from the ...
Years ago at a conference in LA, a coach, to whom I was paying a ton of money, asked in the very first session, how many of us had a regular gratitude practice.
The room was full of coaches and consultants so, of course, nearly every hand went up. Then he said, "how many of you did it this morni...
Yesterday, Sam and I went to Albuquerque with a long list, which is only remarkable in context: We moved to a cattle ranch in the center of New Mexico eleven days ago, and the ranch is so big we measure it in miles - 14 by 10ish.
The quiet is so absolute here, you only really get it by standing u...
Yesterday, I woke up at dawn mainly because, from my bed, I can see the sunrise through the east-facing kitchen window. The Gallenas Mountains in the distance were still purple in the dark, but glowing along their ridges from the coral and gold climbing up behind them.
What a beautiful image th...
A client asked me recently to talk about "being patient in the waiting." She didn't elaborate, but I have a hunch her larger question is this:
"I want to be done with this struggle, to finally get to the other side, but I'm not there yet. How do I stay hopeful and patient as I slog through the s...
I was walking through my neighborhood this morning, realizing how much I like walking through my neighborhood in the morning.
No fewer than six of my neighbors leaned out their front doors or hollered down the street to say hi.
That sounds like a small thing. It's not.
There's a loneliness epid...
